FRIEND DEATH

Introduction.     

We cannot decline the importance of a good friendship. During schooling and college, we make friendships to help out each other for study or something else for a good purpose. In the same way, some professional and skilled people also become friends to facilitate each other. Naturally, all stages of human life need a good companionship for good feelings and enjoying the life because it is a reality that a single human or even animal cannot enjoy his life. Sometimes, you cannot discuss your health issues or something else with your blood relative, even your parents, but you feel free to talk about all issues with your friend. I think friendship is compulsory in our life. It depends on us, how we should choose a friend, we should think elaborately before making a friendship.  

My Best Friend.    

I have a lot of friends, but Mr Abul Rashid Bajwa, nicknamed Muhammad Islam was my best friend. There is no doubt he was a handsome man from our village. His body structure was very sound with middle height, brown eyes and a good shape nose. He was much more beautiful internally than his appearance.  During their time schooling and college, all teachers and his class fellow were respected for him being an intelligent and a well-disciplined student. Participation was taken in the sports events by him, and he was also a good player of hockey and Kabbadi. He was a professionally Homeopathic Doctor; he had served in Health Department, and he had got retirement on fulfilling the conditions of his enrollment. He was a great man, and he had enjoyed a good reputation in his family and village society. All people respected him due to his positive attitude and exemplary character. We met with each other daily. At about 1600 hours, on 15 December 2020, he called me through his mobile. I went to his home. He was suffering from fever and feeling cool. During my presence, he took some medicines and recovered within one hour. The next day, due to some personal commitment, I was away from home, so I could not meet him physically however, I contacted him on mobile, and he was OK. 

My deprivation of a Best Friend.         On 17 December at about 0615 hours, after offering Morning Prayer, I was still in the mosque; Mr Muhammad Sharif Bajwa brother of Mr Abdul Rashid Bajwa stood up and asked the Mosque Imam to announce the death of Mr Abdul Rashid Bajwa in Load Speaker. The said demise was very painful to me, I did not believe in my ears. I have no words to explain my feeling at these moments; however, I left the mosque and rushed to the home of my friend. When I reached there, his middle son Electrical Engineer Mr Muhammad Kashif closed his arms around my neck and started weeping. I have understood that now I have been deprived of my best friend. My legs were not supporting me due to the shock of this sad news, so I sat down on a chair. His other two sons were also deeply sad, and their tears were continuously drooping from their eyes. The environment of the room where we were sitting offered a sad and painful picture.  My friend had all the qualities of a best friend, with the following extraordinary qualities:-

• Strength to Bear.  He had an extraordinary strength to bear the severe physically and mentally problems. During his life, he bore a lot of financial losses but he did not show his worries. He took all such burdens on his shoulder for the happiness of his family, relatives, colleagues and friends. He also faced some serious health problems with his kidney and spinal cord. As the patients with this disease feel severe pain sometimes they slightly cry. Naturally, all living species cry or extract some voices on receiving the pain but my best friend bore all diseases patiently. One day at about 1000 hours, surgery on his gallbladder was carried out in the hospital and on the same day at about 1600 hours, he slowly walked with a smiling face like a healthy man. This clearly shows us that he had great strength to bear. 

• Forgiveness.           In society, all people are not having equal qualities of thinking, behaviour, habits and attitude toward others. Once upon a time, I was sitting in the clinic of Mr Abdul Rashid Bajwa, a man who was his relative came and he misbehaved at him due to some family dispute/issue, but my friend remained cool and calm.  I felt no good and I left the clinic for home. After half hour he came to my home and sat down near me with a smiling face. He told me that I have forgiven him. We should not think about what he did? He was an immature, useless and impatient man. If we retaliate in the same manner, what difference would be between him and us?

• Positive Thinking.     Abdul Rashid Bajwa was senior to me, whenever, I shared my problem with him, he always guide me in good manners with positive thinking. He gives good advice to all to maintain the peace and harmonious atmosphere in the society/village. He always tried to remain close to all people without any discrimination. He gave the decision on the merit base on disputed matters between families or tribal’s of the village. He always spoke the truth and has good thoughts for others.

• Communication Skill.       He knew the art, and how to talk with elders and children. His language was soft, and he always used parliamentary language. He had a good ability to convey his message absolutely in a good manner. Due to the use of soft and good pronunciations as per the required situation, the opponent was become compelled to listen to his conversation or point of view. He always used the form of table talk to solve disputes. As everyone knows, the conversation is the best solution to all issues. My best friend had good communication skills.

• Look After of Family.       My best friend, Mr Abdul Rashid Bajwa did well nurturing his family in all respect. All children are well educated; he provided all legal facilities to them and also fulfilled their all legal desires. He always gave the preference for the best future for his children, and also sacrificed his rest and self-desire. The role and strives of his middle son Electrical Engineer Muhammad Kashif cannot be ruled out to co-op up his family.

Consequences.

• A good friend can support you in self-improving and making a happy life. However, you would have to be chosen a good male or female for friendship.

• We should trust our friend and should understand his problems. Your trust can stand your friendship forever.

• A good friend always remains stands with his friend in all situations.

• Do not take a test your friend because it shows your lack and confidence.

• Do not miss the opportunity of a good friendship because good friends do not come again and again in life. The death of my best friend has created space in my life. No other can fill this space. 

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HAPPY LIFE

 

Introduction.    

The process of creation/birth of all humans is the same but shapes are different. While by birth, some people are white, wheatish and some are in black clours. Their body structure is also different. Likewise, they are not financially equal. In this way, everyone has their views and thinking about the creation of universals. Based on their views and thinking, a human does strive, to achieve his goals. Despite having different thinking and views, all people want to spend their happy life in all respect, whether they are doing well or not for themselves and society. A businessman, shopkeeper, labour or employee of any institution seems to do the utmost effort for a happy life because; in the present era, it is not an easy achievement. Now the question is this, can everyone achieve it?.  While, the majority of people seem to worry due to unemployment, loss of business, family disputes, natural disasters, terrorism, extremism, diseases like the COVID-19 pandemic or something else. Undoubtedly, everyone wants to come out of this situation to lead his/her happy life. I think we can lead a happy life by acting upon the following principles:-

• Strong Believe in God.    Believe in God means that He is the creator of the universal, where we live and also where we have no access. God is the best knower and best doer. He has given us brains for good thinking and body for doing good only. We must work hard physically for the best deeds, He always gives us only what is good for us. Sometimes, suddenly we feel sick, we should believe in God, He has saved us from major problems; however, we should take medicine and pray for the recovery of health. In this way, if money and power are not held with us, we should have to be believed in God, He shall give us at the right time. My meaning is not, to give up striving for gaining money and power, rather we should think, that we have some weaknesses, therefore, we cannot get them. Believing in God gives immense pleasures in life. We cannot imagine it.

• Good Thinking.       Good thinking means, what you want yourself, want the same for others or what you feel happiness on achieving your goal; feel the same happiness in the success of others. Good thinking means having a good attitude and enthusiasm for others as you like for yourself.  It gives great energy for internal satisfaction and alertness. Those who have good thinking remain safe from depression and anxiety. If we want to spend a happy life, we would have to follow the principle of good thinking.

• Good Use of Spare Time.    Spare time is also a great blessing of Allah as health. Best utilization of spare time plays an important role to make a happy life. I think we can do the following, during our spare time:-

1. Give the priority to your family to spend your spare time.
2. Meet with relatives, neighbours and friends.
3. See the patients of your area who are admitted to the hospital or detained at home. You can do more else for them if you are a professional in the medical field, especially for those who are lying sick in their home.
4. If you can afford it, you can spend your spare time as a volunteer social worker or something else good work as a welfare measure for the people of your society.
5. Mediation and physical exercise are also good for the best use of your spare time.
6. You can learn technical skills for extra income and the best use of your spare time.
7. Do study these books, newspapers and other available materials which can help for self-improvement. We can watch healthy programmes on TV, and also can listen to motivational talks and lectures.
8. After working hours, if you feel tired, you should take a rest to keep maintain your health during your spare time.

• Help.  Help means to provide assistance, facility or to make ease to someone, while it was also not your responsibility and not any other personal gain. When you help others, he and other people also feel good and you too naturally feel happy.  There are many types of help. However, I would like to mention here the main types of help: -

1. Physically Help.     It means that when we physically act or do something for others will be called physically help. For example, if a man is carrying some luggage or something else, we help him with carrying the luggage, or if a person has no money for eating food and we give him some food or money, it is a physically help.
2. Morally Help.         Morally help/support means to encourage the enthusiasm and thinking of a person who has the desire to do something good in all respect. For example, if a person who lost character and he deserves for improving, you do morally help him to the improvement of his character.
3. Politically and Socially Help.     Political support means if a violation of human rights is being done or identification of any society and nation is being lost by the regime or other groups, and you highlight it at the national and international level for the attention of responsible authorities and organizations so that these issues could be solved in the best way. Your, highlighting these issues and the use of the political influence of all concerned will be called political help.  Social help has great importance.  Social help means to help out the needy persons on an immediate basis through the family, neighbours, relatives, friends, co-workers and society where you are living.

• Health.    Health is your wealth. Use all legal means to keep himself/herself healthy. Always pay special attention to your healthy diet and strictly follow the sanitation rules. If you want to enjoy your life, you would have to be remained healthy in all respect because a sick person cannot spend a happy life whether he has a lot of money or other materialized facilities.

• Gratitude to Allah/God.    Gratitude to Allah/God means what is held with us is enough for our needs, a lot of people are best than us, but they have less than us. Who those adopt the principle of gratitude use their available resources wisely and in good manners. They do not spread their feet more than the actual requirement and if we will do so, we will feel easy and our life will automatically become happy.

Conclusions.           

Undoubtedly, above mention principles help us to spend a happy life. As per my personal experience, our feelings and desires make our life happy or unhappy. We would have to be controlled over unnecessary desires and bad feelings. 

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PARENT’S RESPONSIBILITIES TOWARD CHILDREN

Introduction.     

Naturally, parents are responsible look after their children in good manners. All societies, countries, and states have formulated and set their own rules and regulations to protect the rights of children. Parents are responsible and follow the rules and regulations. While some Government and Non-Government Institutions at national and international levels are also playing their role to ensure the protection of children’s rights. Being human, we would have to be understood, that the provision of food, home shelter, safety, dress, education, health, money, property, provision of necessities or something else is not only our duty, but we are much more responsible than this. Because animals also provide food and home to their children, even they scarify their life upon their children’s security. We will have to be more conscious to make them use people in society. A lot of responsibilities of parents toward their children have been published on the electronic and print media. As per my thinking, parents are responsible to do the following:-

Love.  

Love your children. They are a great blessing of God. No materialized thing can compare with them. Your love for children is gratitude to Allah. When parents love their children, naturally, they feel happiness, and their intelligence and confidence level improves. What you can teach your children with love, you cannot teach in another way. The feeling of the children plays an important role in their physical and mental growth. Good feelings also improve the immune system of the human body. Finally, I would like to say here, that the love of parents is a great technique for learning, guiding and keeping them happy in all situations.       

• Character Improvement.       All parents endeavour within the capacity of their available resources to nurture their children. Character improvement is the main responsibility of the parents. All materialized resources can be purchased from the market but the character of a man cannot be purchased. Character means, morality, mentality, attitude, maturity and thinking, which is applied by us in our practical life. Character shows the standard of the reputation of a human. Therefore, as parents, we should have to be paid full attention to improving the character of our children.
• Discipline.   Parents are responsible for maintaining the discipline of their children. Discipline means motivation and maturity under which a man/woman does only a good deed according to the rules and regulations. A disciplined man/woman always remains away from illegal deeds. Discipline has great importance in the life of humans. Due to the lack of discipline, a system of any family society, country or state cannot run smoothly despite having good resources.

• Trust in God.           Motivate your children to keep trust in God. Trust in God means to make our children internally strong to face hardships. Now the question is how we should have to be guided about the trust in God? Its answer is very simple, tell them that some problems naturally occur, and that is not part of our mistake, we would have to be faced these problems patiently. During such situations, do not go into deep sorrow and stress conditions. For example, if the property or other financial loss occurs due to a natural disaster or the death of our friend or a blood relative occurs, we would have to be shown the patient.  Encourage yourself, work hard, and believe in God, He will give us good rewards which are best for us.
• Equality and Justice.        We are responsible to provide equal rights and opportunities to all children for the development and preparation for the best future. As parents, we should distribute our assets between them as per their rights. Education is an integral part of human life therefore it is our duty and responsibility to give the equal chance to children to get an education without a gender base. It has been observed some parents do not provide the chance to girls to get a higher education. It is an injustice and also shows an irresponsible attitude.  

• Provision of Healthy Activities.          Parents are responsible to provide healthy activities to the children, like indoor and outdoor games.  Sport is compulsory to maintain the health of all ages of persons, especially children. Sportsmanship promotes confidence, harmony and good habits. To ensure it, parents can organize games competition between children at the village and town levels on a self-help basis.

• Truth.   We should speak the truth with the children because they follow us. Tell them about the importance of truth and the disadvantages of lying. Motivate them to be remaining straightforward throughout life. Motivate the children to fulfil the promise.

• Eating and Drinking.   Parents are responsible tell the manners of eating and drinking to their children. Tell them, to wash their hand before eating and start to eat with the name Allah/God. Tell them to drink the water before eating.  Chew the food completely and do not eat more than the capacity of your stomach. If you will eat more than required, you may become sick.  After eating, thank God and again wash your hand.

• Conversation Manners.  Good communication skill has an excellent impression. As parents, it is our responsibility to tell the conversation manners of the children. How they should talk with elders and younger? They should not do the useless conversation. Less conversation habit covers your weaknesses and a wise man does not do useless talk.

• Respect.       This is a great responsibility of husband and wife; they should do they respect each other. Father would have to be said to the children to respect their mother and the mother should also do so. In this way, a respectful environment is created, and the children take a good impression.

• Pray.  After performing the duties and responsibilities sincerely toward children, parents should pray for their children, God gives them the right path, health, and all happiness and saves the devil's snare.

Consequences.      

I have no doubt, some child care institutions are performing their duties well to look after the children but parents are really responsible. In the light of above mention responsibilities of parents and, my personal experiences, observations and feelings, I have concluded the following consequences:-

As parents, we would have to be accepted our responsibilities toward our children because we are answerable to society and God about our children.   

We should admit the reality, children are innocent. They are our future, and if we want to see our bright future, we would have to be paid full attention to looking after them.

Our children are our corps, what we sow so we will reap.

We would have to be paid special attention to keeping them clean conduct so that they could produce good results for society. 

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TRUTH

Introduction.    

Truth means a reality that does not have discrepancies in any shape. Truth is to remain straightforward in all situations whether it is favourable or unfavourable for you and others. Truth is a reality like nature as the purity of nature cannot be changed, and likewise, truth is also unchangeable. Sometimes, truth seems to be difficult and degraded but results always come good. So in all walks of life, we should speak the truth. It is the main key to your progress in all fields of life. Some benefits of this good act receive at the spot time and some later. We should believe, that after this, the best rewards will be given to the true speaker on the resurrection day by Allah.  Allah says in Holy Quran. ‘This is the Day when the truthful will benefit from their truthfulness.’ For them are gardens [in Paradise] beneath which rivers flow, wherein they will abide forever, Allah being pleased with them, and they with Him. That is the great attainment,” (Al-Ma’idah: 119). https://www.quranexplorer.com/blog/education-in-the-light-of-sunnah-and-qura'an/speaking_truth_in_islam.   The benefits of the truth are countless. However, some benefits are as under:-

• Respect and Trust.    Every person has their different desires but one desire has everyone that, all people give him respect and trust him. If you want to get this desire, so always speak the truth. The people will automatically start to give you respect, and they will also respectfully trust you. When people give respect to a man and also trust in him, he feels happiness and pleasure. So then his morale becomes boosted, and he does good deeds which are held in his domain. He becomes more careful than before to keep away himself from the irresponsible attitude towards his duties. His family members, friends and collogue feel proud of his respect, and they also try to follow him. Respect builds trust. Trust and respect make strong of your relationships. Strong relationships are your great strength to achieve the goal which you cannot achieve alone.      

• Truth provides Justice.   Justice plays an important role in maintaining a peaceful environment, and the people of any country or state can only make progress in a peaceful environment. Justice provides all types of security to humans and even animals. The judicial department of any state or country is responsible for the provision of justice. To ensure the timely provision of justice, witnesses and, pieces of evidence should have to be true in all respect. Justice improves the efficiency and image of any society. We should have righteousness for justice. Standard of social justice promotes the image of a person, family, society, country and state because social justice provides equality to the people to access Justice, welfare, ( necessities of life) education, privileges, health and wealth. Allah loves the equitable.       

• Truth Leads to the Right Path.    Truthfulness is that great power, which keeps us away from the illegal and wrong way, and leads us to the right path. The right path means to follow the rules and regulations and do good deeds. Your good deeds are that good deeds if your deeds have beneficial to others also. As a human, if you want to achieve the real mission of your life, the right path would have to be chosen for you. If we read about the practical life of our great leaders, history tells us, that they were always speaking the truth. They did not like the liar. Success comes through the truth.       

• Ethics and Manners.      Quality of truth improves the quality of ethics and good manners of a human. A true person can do a good debate on any issue to ascertain the factual position of the case than a liar. It has been observed if verbal or written statements or some other materials have been provided by a true man as evidence, people believe him and do not demand counter checks except in serious matters. Being a true man, people acknowledge his good ethics and manners.

• Internal Satisfaction.     When a person speaks the truth, he feels internal satisfaction because he realizes that he is doing well. He does not face the problems to tell the reality of any case. Naturally, the reality of anything becomes safe in the mind of a true man. When a person wants to tell and explains the facts of any matter, the saved movie runs in front of his eyes, so he tells and explains it with complete satisfaction. While a liar man makes a fabricated story, he often faces problems to explain it. If the clarification is asked again from him, he will not repeat it with the same words, as he had already told.

• Truth Saves From Sins.  A Lie is misleading to yourself and others’ act under which a man tries to conceal the facts against nature. A lie is a sin and sins lead to hell. Truth speaking habit is a righteous act and it has a good impact on others while lying has a bad impact on others. Therefore, truth saves us from sins and leads us to Paradise.

• Self Improvements.  Truth makes you a mature, well-disciplined, dedicated and responsible person in society. If you want self-improvement, you would have to be adopted the habit of true speaking. All good acts are enclosed with the truth therefore self-improve is impossible without it. A true man always tries to do something good for himself and his society. 

• Good Attitude.     Truth promotes your good attitude because true talk has a meaningful purpose. Everyone can get benefit from your truth. The lie is a bad habit; it is nothing something else except wasting time and cheating yourself. A true speaking man does not violate the rules and regulations at any cost therefore his attitude is appreciated at all levels.

Consequences.    

The following consequences have been ascertained:-

• True is like by all. We should speak the truth in our routine conversation, and this habit should be promoted in society to deal with all matters in good manners. 

• Truth always produces fruitful results.

• Truth speaking is the quality of great people. No other quality can take the place of this quality.

• All messengers of Allah were true, and they have given the message of true speaking to the people.

• True speaking is the best solution to problems and mistakes.

• Truth is forever, but a lie is for the short time.

• Truth is like that as human beings, we know, we will die, but we do not know the exact time and location of death.

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MY HERO

 

ARTICLE- MY HERO

Introduction.    

All societies and countries have their heroes. He has great qualities and exceptional vision. He has the right understanding of global members of the family affairs, and he knows the art to speak in international shape as an extraordinary leader. He has first-rate verbal exchange competencies to carry his message to his state and around the world, and he can convince the sector of his ideas. The hero can stand the alternative social leaders. He does no longer bow his head in front of any chief due to the fact he is aware; that he's a pacesetter of a first-rate kingdom. He works day and night time for his country's gain. He courses his state in all fields of existence for their vivid destiny, human beings love and comply with him. My hero is Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah, he's the founding father of our loved united states Pakistan within the Indian Subcontinent. He turned into born on 25 December 1876 in the Karachi metropolis ( Hub of Pakistan business). By birth, Quaid-e-Azam was weak and thin with long palms and head, his dad and mom had been upset about his health, however after a clinical check-up physician introduced him as a normal newborn child. His father Jinnah Ali Poonjah changed into a large service provider in Karachi town, he mounted his personal enterprise of leather, and he changed into very well-known within the business network. The name of the Quaid-e-Azam mom is Mithibai Jinnah.

Education.    

He passed his matric exam at a local Karachi school, after which he was admitted to a Missionary School and Madrasa-Tul-Islam for doing the Intermediate. Meanwhile, Grahams Trading Shipping Corporation and other British business companies have set up offices in Karachi to export and import goods from Western countries to South Asia by ships. The English manager of the corporation was a good friend and business partner of Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah's father. The English Manger of Grahams Trading Shipping Corporation suggested to the father of Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah to send his son to England for higher business education and also to gain business management experience at the Grahams Trading Shipping Corporation Head Office. He agreed to his friend's suggestion and sent him to England for this purpose. In January 1893, Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah left the city of Karachi by ship until he reached England. Three months later, his ambitious lifestyle led him to leave the Grahams Trading Shipping Corporation Head Office. He applied to enter the entrance test to join Lincoln’s Inn without a Latin Language course for good representation. The management of Lincoln's Inn Bar agreed with the reasons, as he had stated in the application, and agreed to appear in the exam. He studied the concerned books and passed the entrance test in April 1893. His father, on the other hand, was disappointed with his decision. However, Quaid-e-Azam ended up concentrating on his study. His teachers Sir Howard Elphinstone, and Barrister Douglas Edward provided the words, Mr Muhammad Ali Jinnah was a distinguished, intelligent, fast-paced and diligent student of Lincoln’s Inn. In this way, he obtained the degree Bar-at-Law from England in 1896.

Profession.    

He was a trained lawyer from a well-known law firm in England. He started his career as a lawyer at Sind Bar Karachi and then moved from Karachi to Bombay City to try his luck and hone his talent. He met John Molesworth, Advocate General of Bombay.  He advised him to work with Chamber, and Quaid-e-Azam accepted his invitation. In 1900, he was appointed for six months as the Third Presidential Magistrate in a temporary position in the Department of Justice. He did his job very well. At the end of six months, he was offered a chance to work for the position for 1,500 rupees a month. At that time, it was good pay, but he refused confidently, "No thank you, I will soon be earning more than that one day". Initially, his performance was not beneficial in terms of his skills, but after a while, he proved himself a professionally sound man, and his name was mentioned in a list of India's top lawyers.

Political Activities.  

He became interested in political activities in 1903, and in 1904 ran in his first election for Municipal Corporation Bombay. He wanted to unite Hindu-Muslim communities to form a strong independence movement. So he started his political career in the form of the Indian National Congress and attended his first meeting in December 1904 in Bombay. He officially joined Congress in 1906 and the Indian Muslim League Party in 1911. In 1923, he was elected a member of the Islamic legislature in Bombay. He introduced a bill in the Central Legislative Assembly of dissenting voters between Muslims and Hindus, but the Congress Party did not agree. After this, he gave fourteen points on the security of Muslim political rights, but the Congress Party did not show a positive response. When Quaid-e-Azam saw that, the leaders of the Indian National Congress were unfaithful to the rights of the Indian Muslims, so he left the Congress Party. But because of certain political issues and personal commitments, he left India for England. He bought a house in England and began working as a lawyer. Liaqat Ali Khan and other Muslim leaders met with Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah in England and asked him to return to India and reorganize the Indian Muslim League. He accepted their request and came back. He worked day and night for an independent Muslim Islamic country in the view of Allama Iqbal. On March 23, 1940, two years after the death of Allama Iqbal, Quaid-e-Azam spoke to the Indian nation, and the Muslim League ratified the Pakistan Declaration. Many great obstacles came to him, but he had great courage, strength and vision, so he achieved his goal of Muslim State Pakistan on 14 Aug 1947.

Governor-General of Pakistan.     

On 15 Aug 1947, Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah took oath as the first Governor-General of Pakistan. Uncounted problems existed for a newly Pakistan like extremely shortage of funds, settlement of refugees, and negative behaviour of internal and external anti-Pakistan elements, especially India. On the appeal of Quaid-e-Azam for depositing money in the Government Treasury to enhance the reserve, the nation stood up at the call of its great hero by showing exemplary patriotism to the country and deposited the money more than expectations. Great steps were taken to settle the refugees who had left India for Pakistan, however, their scarifications for Pakistan are unforgettable. In his first speech as Governor-General of Pakistan gave the message of religious freedom to the nation of Pakistan.

Death of Quaid-e-Azam.     

Pakistan was making exemplary progress day by day in all sectors due to the day and night hard work of our hero Quaid-e-Azam. He was a patient with TB, his doctor advised him to take a rest but he did not act as per the advice of the doctor due to patriotism with nation and country. He had said, work work and work. He did not disclose his disease to the nation so that the morale of the nation do not affect. Finally, our hero left us and died on 11 September 1948 in Karachi City. God forgive his sins and rest his soul in eternal peace.

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Divorce Reasons

 

ARTICLE - DIVORCE REASONS

Introduction.

As a human being, husband and wife is a great and holy relationship. Naturally, males and females of all species have a desire to have intercourse with each other. To fulfil this desire legally, a man and a woman make a contract marriage. They love each other without their gain. The married people feel a good change in their life and, also realize an extraordinary power to enjoy the happiness of their life and, to face the problem. When a husband and wife stand up with connected shoulders should in any field, no one can defeat them. They provide all types of support to each other to carry out the vehicle of their family life in good manners. Both life partners have their rights and duties and they would have to be accepted their duties to give respect to the rights of the other so that their relationship could remain strong. While it has been observed in society, some people are to be failed to maintain their good relationships so, divorce cases are increasing day by day. Often, divorces occur based on issues, while these issues could be resolved amicably. Let us discuss the reasons for divorce. A lot of reasons exist and a few main reasons are as under:-

Supremacy. 

Some men and women want to establish their supremacy over others on base of wealth, designation, political influence, health, beauty or something else. After marriage, his/her other life partner does not like it. He feels it as his/her sovereignty challenge. Therefore, family problems are raised and go to the separation/divorce.

• Illegal Activities.   When a life partner of anyone is involved in the following illegal activities, disputes are started between them.

• Illicit Relationship with Others.         Being a human no one can bear illicit relations with his/her life partner. Even animals and birds do not like it. They also start fighting. It is a symbol of a morally corrupt person. Such persons are to be useless to the family as well as to society. They do not know about the importance of life partner relationships and the bad effects of separation or divorce.

Use of Drugs.

The use of drugs is an abusive habit. It is a waste of your money and injures your health. Drug adversely affects the immune system and willpower. The user becomes a patient of depression and loses his temperament. The drugs also damage the capability mental. Due to loss of temperament, he/she often misbehaves with companions. They become weak in all respect, he/she demands money from their family for the use of drugs. At last, his/her family decides to solve the problem through separation/divorce.

Lack of Trust.   

Your life partner is an integral part of your life. Do not create a space of doubt in the atmosphere of trust. If you see your family with the eye of doubt, uncertainty prevails in the domestic atmosphere and eats the peace. As a building may not be used for living without a roof, your trust is the roof of your family relationship building. The main mission of the devil is to create mistrust between husband and wife. He uses it for raising the issues between them. He feels happiness at this achievement because he knows very well about the range of its side effects. We should not listen to those who want to tell us something wrong about our family. If anyone gives you evidence against your life partner, so then also do not believe it. However, check and investigate the matter himself from all angles to ascertain the factual position of the case. To keep maintain the family relationship, both life partners always remain away from these acts which can breach your trust.

Misbehave and Unnecessary Criticize.         

It has been observed some illiterate men, who do not know women’s rights, unnecessary criticize and misbehave with their wives in the presence of their children and other people. Such persons do not take opinions from their life partners on domestic matters. Some people do not talk in good manners with women, in these situations wife feels unsafe herself and demands separation/divorce. On the other hand, some women also have a bad habit of backbiting their husbands, despite doing good behaviour from their side. Always keep positive thinking, ignore the minor mistakes of your life partner and welcome his/her good deed.

Imbalance Expenditure.

Some people lose their balance way in domestic expenditure. Either they do expenditure more than their ordinary expenditure or they do miser. Extraordinary expenditure becomes the cause of financial hardship and in the case of misers women and children are deprived of their necessities. The family feels uncertainty in these conditions and issues start. If both habits are not given up, maintaining family relationships becomes very difficult.

Lack of Communication. 

Good communication helps you to discuss all problems and its solution. But it has been observed, some married peoples remain busy in their own business, job or some else work and, they could not manage their time for family according to the requirement. The family feels lonely. Lack of communication allows those who want to misguide you or your life partner. Disputes are increased and go to separation or divorce.

Commitment Issue.          

Commitment gives good ideas and energy to the human for preparing plans, decision power, working hard and achieving the goal. Due to the lack of commitment, life partners lose their internal satisfaction and enthusiasm, therefore they become failed to maintain their marriage relationship. They cannot work together even, and they also lose those good friends who can guide them in a worse situation. 

Consequences. 

• The husband and wife relationship is a great blessing of Allah (God).

• Parents of the couple should be involved in contact marriage, they can guide them with experience for maintaining good relationships.

• Undoubtedly, divorce is a right of both life partners and if they feel to use this right, they can use it but this right can adversely affect the life of the whole family especially children.

• Utmost effort should be done to resolve the issues by both sides so that divorce/separation could do not occur.

• Divorce is considered by some people a stigma on the face of a divorced couple, especially for females. 

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MOTIVATIONAL CONTENTS – DECIDING POWER

1.   Before talking about any subject, we should have to be understood the meaning of the subject. Today we will talk about the deciding power. As per my thought, deciding power is that power of ability under which a man decides to do something accordingly even if he has no professionalism in that work which he wants to do but the power of deciding provides guidance to that person till to completion of the decided mission.

2.  Charles Duhhigg is a generalist and author. He has written for The New York Times and presently writes for The New Yorker. As a columnist and senior editor, Pulitzer Prize has been awarded to him. His following two books are very famous in the world:-

       a. The Power of Decision.

       b. The Secret of being Product.

3.    Charles Duhhigg proves in the book that habit is a science. He has claimed, in the past, that all successful people have passed so far were the products of their habits. Good people are products of good habits and bad are products of bad habits. Rich peoples are rich in their rich habits, poor people are poor due to their poor habits and weak people are the product of their weak habits. Failed persons are the product of their failed habits. Nature cannot be changed, but habits can be changed. If you want to change in yourself, change your habits, and if you want to change in your family, you would have to be changed the habits of your family. In this way, you can bring a change to your society, country and world.  All people, societies, nations, states and countries are respectable. However, I would like to mention here the example of those three countries, they how did exemplary progress within 50 years after the 2^nd World War.

• China. Chinese adopted a habit to do hard work. They have made it a mission of their life to work hard. Therefore, presently China is a strong country in all respect.

• German. After World War, Germany decided to fight against poverty instead of any nation, state or country. Germans have proved themselves, they had taken a great decision with great deciding power. Right after fifty years of the World Ward, they had become a happy and financially sound nation.

• Japan. After the world war, Japan was transferred to home technology. Nowadays, if you check the domestic use equipment and small machinery, you will find the majority of these items have been made in Japan.

4.    Charles Duhhig was issuing a lecture to some people, during the session of question and answer, a man from the pavilion put a question if an option is given to us that we can choose only one habit in our life so what habit we should be chosen?. He replies with a smile that when I was writing the books, I had also asked this question to a lot of intellectuals and they replied, deciding power. If we decide to make ourselves an engineer or doctors, we become engineers and doctors. Who decided to make themselves a politician, became politicians. We are the product of our decisions. 

5.    If we want success, we would have to be taken good decisions. Now the question is this, how can we make a good decision? This is easy and simple. Just you would have to be decided without delay. Delay in the decision is your and your concerned people’s wasting of time. Your time is very much precious; you cannot imagine its cost. Time does not wait for anyone. Your wrong decision is best than to do not do a decision. If you do not decide that time comes soon when you regret to do not do a decision. Thrive to improve your decision-making habit. Do not pay attention to the people, what are they saying about your decision. Do not change before completion what you have decided.

6.    Once upon a time, a washerman was living in town with his family. He had established a laundry point out of the town on the bank of a stream. He had a donkey, he used him for carrying the clothes from the shop to the laundry point and back. He was a very hard worker. His customers were happy with the provision of his good service and, therefore, his business was expanding day by day. So he decided to sell the donkey and purchase a vehicle for carrying the clothes from the shop to the washing location. One day, the washerman and his young son got up early in the morning for selling the donkey in the market. When they were going to the market, the father was riding on the donkey and his son was walking. Some old people saw them and said, “how is a father who himself is riding but his son pedestrian”. On listening to these words, he got down from the donkey and asked his son to do the riding. They took a few hundred steps forward. There some men and women were working in the fields, they saw them and gave the remarks, how is the young son, he is himself riding and, the father is walking. In the meantime, a man crossed them and said, that both appear nonsense because despite having a donkey, one of them is walking. Based on these comments, the father and his son changed their 2nd-time decision, and both rode on the donkey. Now they were passing through a village, the villagers saw and started saying that both people are cruel. Because ridding of the two persons on an old donkey is a pitiless and criminal act. They again changed their decision for 3^rd time and got down. Now they decided to pick up the donkey on their shoulders. When they reached the market, people were laughing at them. The washerman and his son were very tired, they down on a big stone and got injuries. Finally, they killed the donkey, which was brought by them for selling out. This story gives us the following moral lessons.

• Do not act upon the advice of those who advise you without your saying.

• Decide to do not to advise others without their asking.

• Your strong decision is your success. A weak and flexible decision is an irremovable obstacle in the way of your goal.

• What you want just decide to do it, and then close your ears for success.

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ARTICLE - MARRIAGE BENEFITS

Introduction.    

All states, countries and societies have their own Rules and Regulation for marriage. They have formulated rules and regulations according to the customs and religion of the society. There are many types of marriage. Marriage is the right of all males and females without any discrimination. Any couple can marry as per their desire by following their regime's rules and regulations. Commonly marriage is done between a male and female. Marriage means a social and legal contract agreement between a male and female, the legitimacy of the contract permits them to live together, and they can also do sex with each other. They can decide in contract marriage regarding the birth of children. Who will look after the children, and who will respond to fulfilling the other necessities of life? Further other obligations can be decided in the contract even if some serious issues happen between the couple, and unfortunately, they want to separate by divorce, so how they would do it. If the marriage has done as per the religion of the couple, so I think some obligations are automatically imposed on the couple. I believe all religions have good rules and regulations to lead a happy family life. For example, as per the Islam religion, a man is responsible to provide the all necessities of life to his wife and children even a woman can claim the cost of her breastfeeding to the child from his husband, and a man has the right to divorce his wife but if a woman wants to take divorce she can do so through a court. As per my thoughts and views, marriage provides us with the following benefits:-

• Safety of Health.    As human beings, the safety of health is our top priority.  Sex is a natural desire of all normal humans, animals and birds. Good sex provides mentally and physically satisfaction to the male and female. Internal satisfaction plays an important role to maintain your health.  To fulfil the sex desire, you have to be done sex with someone. Health is our top priority. Sex with everyone is an irreparable loss. Therefore we should remain restricted in our life partners. Marriage provides you safety from HIVs disease, but this benefit is only for those who remain to restrict himself/herself to a spouse for sex. You can suddenly ill at any time, like a heart attack, serious injury, or something else in which immediate help can only save the life. In these conditions, what the best role can play your life partner and your children no one other can do so.

• Sense of Responsibility.   After marriage sense of responsibility of a male and female is enhanced in all respect. Before marriage, you were only responsible for yourself, but after marriage, now you would also feel responsible for your lovely spouse and children. The sense of responsibility of the majority of married males and females gives them signals that if he/she will do any immoral or illegal act so he/she will be degraded in the eye of their spouse. Marriage guides males and females to maintain a good relationship with neighbours. They follow rules and regulations. Everybody has a desire to enjoy a good reputation in his society. While a good reputation can only earn with good character. Marriage is a strength for improving human character. 

• Patient. Patience is a symbol of a wise person, and marriage provides power to a human to become a patient person. Sometimes, your spouse or your child does a mistake, which gives you some financial loss and you bear it patiently due to the family love. Because you know, if you reacted in a bad manner, so it would be not good for your family relationship. Such time comes, also when your life partner shouts with harsh words at your any mistake, but you listen patiently.

• A Hard Working Person.       Before marriage, you only work for your personal life and after marriage expenses are enhanced, so hard work has to be done by you to fulfil the requirements of your family. In this way, you become a hard-working person. A man who has hard work quality, any hurdle his way cannot stop him to achieve his goal. People of all ages in his society respect him, and his all family members and relatives feel happy at this honour. On seeing this, other people in the society follow him and do hard work, which is good for society. 

• Security.   Marriage provides security to the life partners and their children in all fields of life. If the father is away from his home for a job or a business purpose, so his wife looks for the security of home and children. In the absence of a mother, the father does so. If both husband and wife are employees, they both can get social security benefits upon attaining the age of retirement, however, it depends on their service performance and eligibilities.

• Less use of Alcohol and Smoking.    A married man or woman uses less alcohol and smokes than those who are unmarried or who are married but are living single. It has also been observed that a lot of people have given up the habit of drinking and smoking after marriage. The main cause of drinking and smoking is aloneness. The life partners motivate, support each other and plan for the future. They feel a need to save money for the future. If anyone out of them is a drinker or a smoker, so he gives up the habit due to the motivation of his life partner. Habit can change but nature cannot change.

• Illegal Relationship.   Naturally, all married males or females do not like that their spouse made an illegal relationship with any other. Therefore they try to keep themselves away from such relationships. They know that if they do so, a trusting atmosphere between them would be destroyed, and family issues would be raised. The result of this issue can go up to separation.   

Conclusion.    

Naturally, all live things have been created in a couple (male and female). It is very difficult for a male or female to live single. If a male and female do not meet with each other to do intercourse, their generation will be finished. Marriage is a blessing of God. Marriage saves you a lot of problems. 

  

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