BEHAVIOUR WITH PARENTS

Introduction.    

The importance and rights of parents are so much to their children, if a human wants to count or jot down the rights of parents so it is impossible for him. Parents start thinking about the best nurturing of children before their birth. Undoubtedly, all parents work hard and also face a lot of problems in making the best development for children. A pregnant woman faces different situations, and during the birth, anyone other cannot imagine the pain and hardships that she bears for her child. Even sometimes mother sacrifices her life during the birth of her children. A mother feeds her breast milk and looks after her children in all respect. Parents make the best arrangements to save their children from hot and cold weather conditions. If a child got sick parents evacuated him/her to the hospital, and they do not take rest till the recovery of the child's health. After marriage and the blessing of children, a good father works more for his family. As human beings, all adult children are responsible to do well behave with their parents and the following should be done by them:-

• Respect the Parents.       Talk with them in a respected manner and physically deal with them obediently. Any time do not do an act which they do not like. Understand their point of view and follow their orders and advice. They have good experience of life and children can get great benefits on act upon their guidance and advice. If you are living away from your parents due to a job or business, you should talk with them regularly through mobile or any other means. Send them gifts that they like, as you know best about your parents, what they like and dislike. If we want the blessing of Allah/God, we should have to be given respect to our parents. If our parents have died, we should respect all those people who were friends of our parents. Children of our parents’ friends will see us in the good eye, a peaceful environment and harmony will be developed in the society.       

• Good Conversation.         All parents want, their children to listen to them with full attention. Talk with them politely and so lowly. Do not talk with them in rude manners and loudly in any situation. If any time they become angry and do hard talk, bear them with a smiling face. We should listen to our parents sincerely and in affectionate ways.

• Mercifully and Pity.         Always do mercy and pity to parents. Especially when they become old, they become physically weak, and their nervous system is also affected. Naturally, in old age, their strength to bear becomes weak, and therefore habits are changed. They can demand some things like children. Do not make a noise near them, especially when they are taking a rest. Now we should understand their position and behave pitiful and merciful with them. 

• Happy Life.  Use all available resources for a happy life for parents. Arrange the meetings of your parents with their friends and to close relatives or who they want to see. Take out them from the house for walking and to visiting places so that they could see and enjoy the natural seen. Prepare special food and sweet dishes as they like and offer them in respectful manners. Always do good deeds and do not create problems for others, in this way people in your society will respect you and your parents will feel proud and happy.     

• Pray for Parents.    Good children pray for their parents, God blessing them as they have nurtured me with love when I was in my childhood. Oh my God keep them safe from all problems as they have saved me. If our parents have died, we should pray for God’s forgiveness of their sins and rest their souls in paradise.          

• Help in Kitchen.     All teenage and adults children, especially girls can help their parents in the kitchen by cooking, serving food to other family members, and washing and cleaning the dishes. Children will learn cooking from their parents at home.

• Washing and Cleaning.    Children should help their parents with cleaning the house, washing of floor, vehicles and clothes. They can change the bedsheets, and iron their school uniform and informal clothes of the parent. Polish your shoes and clean your book. Dispose of your house waste material at the garbage point. After breakfast and dinner, help your parents for cleaning the dining table and dishes.

• Help in Routine Work.    To facilitate the parents, children can take the responsibility for depositing utility bills in time and purchase of vegetables, onions, and potatoes from the market. If parents are farmers, shopkeepers or skilled labourers, children can best use their spare time for helping them, especially during school/college holidays. If your parents are having pets, take out them walking to help with routine work for your parents. Help your parents for watering the flowers and grassy areas of your house yard.

• Financially Help.  If your parents are financially weak and you are having good income resources, you should financially help them. When the parents become old, they cannot do the work hard as they did in their youth age for the development of their children. Now we are responsible in all respect to fulfil their all needs in life.

• Task Completion.  It has been observed that a lot of good and pious people start a welfare project,  but due to their death, or some other genuine problems, they could not complete it. Now the children should complete the ongoing task/project of their parents if they have the resources to complete the task.  In this way, they can provide peace to their parent’s souls in paradise.

Consequences.      

The following consequences have been ascertained:-

• Naturally, all parents have good expectations of their children, and good children work hard to execute the expectation of parents.

• Children are responsible to do good behaviour with their parents to repay.

• Parents are a blessing of Allah, those whose children give respect to their parents, they pay gratitude to Allah/God. If we want the help of God and forgiveness of our sins, we would have to be done good behave with our parents as per the orders of Allah/God.

• If you want to take respect from your children, you would have to be done good behave with your parents because children follow the attitude of their parents.

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